The Most Important Quality Of Any Worship Leader

By David Santistevan

If you look on the typical job description of a worship leader, you’ll see a lot of necessary skills. The ability to sing, arrange music, recruit a team, communicate, lead, and pastor people.

But none of these are the most important qualities. Matter of fact, the most important quality is what we assume and take for granted.

But this can no longer be assumed. What is that quality?

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A love for Jesus.

I know…obvious, right? You can’t be a worship leader and not love Jesus. Or can you?

What does it really mean to love Jesus?

Is it hands raised in the air? Is it the passionate singing of a song? I think about this a lot because sometimes I wonder if I love worship more than I love Jesus. I talk about worship more than I talk about Jesus.

And something just feels…you know, off about that.

There is no shortage of worship resources, worship conferences, and worship training. But is it helping or distracting us?

But then you encounter someone who “gets” it. They don’t just love to worship. They love Jesus. They are as comfortable talking about Jesus as most guys are chatting about Monday night football. It’s as natural as breathing. And it’s not weird. They just genuinely love Jesus and live their lives to make Him known to others.

I feel like in an effort to not be “weird”, many of us have hollowed out our faith to only be something we do in church. Sure, we may read our Bible occasionally. We may pray. But something is missing in our love for Jesus. True love cannot be contained.

It is the greatest commandment. Not the great suggestion.

It is evidenced by what we do. If you love Jesus, you will keep His commandments.

What This Means for Worship Leaders

Worship leaders, we need to think about this. Our job isn’t just to provide an emotionally charged sing-a-long. How are we equipping people to love Jesus when they leave our churches? How are we equipping our people to love Jesus beyond Sunday?

Let’s not just get people addicted to an experience – the artist, the songs, the sound. I’m not proposing we do away with it all but I am proposing a thoughtful look at our love for Jesus.

  • Are we loving Jesus or loving worship?
  • Does our passion for worship outshine our passion for Jesus?
  • Does our love for worship artists take the place of our love for the Son of God?

Sounds silly, right? But it’s a question worth pondering. I want my love for Jesus to be the defining characteristic of my life. I don’t want to use Jesus to pursue a passion for worship, music, songwriting, or ministry.

  • The passion is Jesus.
  • The reason is Jesus.
  • The meaning is Jesus.
  • The heart of it all is Jesus.

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What Does A Healthy Worship Team Look Like?

Adapted from Brad Kohring and Matt Hann 

Healthy culture isn’t something that you can fabricate, it’s something that you “are”. Team culture isn’t just something to talk about, it’s who we are.

These attitudes and commitments are vital for any worship team! Each has a corresponding question we can all ask of ourselves that will keep the culture of our worship teams healthy and thriving!

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1. Commitment to learning.

“How can I do this better?”

When I’m actively looking for opportunities to learn and grow in every situation, constructive criticism doesn’t come as an attack on me as a person but an answer to the question I’ve been asking all along.

2. Commitment to serving.

“How can I help you?”

No matter what we find in our hands to do, whether worship leading, setting up the stage, changing microphone batteries, or anything in between, our first question to each other and to our church should be ‘how can I help you?’.  I’m here to help you, not the other way around.

3. Commitment to excellence.

“Is this my best?”

Excellence isn’t perfection, but it is my best, and my best means always getting better. What is excellence?

  • Excellence looks like personal practice

Getting better at your craft.  If you feel as though you’re “good enough”, please re-check your approach. Excellence takes hard work and means we are continually getting better.

  • Be aware of where you want to be and set realistic goals for yourself

Don’t be content with staying where you are. God wants our best and the bottom line is our best will constantly be changing with more time, work, and experience.

  • Set an expectation of excellence in your team

Excellence starts with the expectation we set for ourselves but a culture of excellence in a team can only be created by the expectation of our leadership. As a team leader, be clear about your expectations – your team will most likely rise to the challenge!

  • Approach what you “always do” with fresh eyes

If we want church to be a place of innovation and initiative, we can’t do this by staying the same. In a new season, we need to look at what we do with fresh eyes. Different seasons call for new strategies or playing techniques.

4. Commitment to humility.

“How can I demonstrate your value?”

Philippians chapter 2 highlights this so well. Jesus came to serve and lay down His life for us. We need to love and serve each other. It’s a ceaseless mission to place value on the people around me.

5. Commitment to devotion.

“What fruit am I producing?”

Am I exhibiting the fruit of the Spirit (love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness ~ Galatians 5:22) in my life more now than I was last year? If so, I’m devoted to the right thing.

6. Commitment to ownership.

“If this was ‘my problem’ what would I do differently?”

We bring solutions, not just problems. We fix things that are broken. We actively look for needs and gaps and we fill them.

7. Commitment to others.

“Who else can I include?”

I don’t hold tightly to “my thing” but actively look for ways to include others on the journey. This is our mandate. We are one body, each with a part to play (1 Corinthians 12).

8. Commitment to unity.

“Am I an island?”

Musicians, lighting, media, sound, singers, musical directors, worship leaders, service directors, pastors and prayer team: We are all part of the team and we are better together!

9. Commitment to communication.

“Am I communicating my problems to the right people?”

If struggles and conflicts arise in a team, are you going to the right person or are you gossiping? Don’t be afraid to have direct conversations with the person or people responsible. Jesus said go to the person directly. It will fix the problems much faster.

10. Commitment to the cause.

“If I was the only one, would I still be here?”

Family, friends, fun, and a team to be a part of are all great reasons to serve each Sunday. But deep down inside I know that, if I was the only one here, I would still turn up. Why? Because I believe in the cause of Christ. I believe in building what Jesus said He would build – His Church (Matthew 16:18).

None of us get these things right all of the time. But they are important and Godly commitments for us all to be aiming towards, both personally and collectively!

Adapted from Brad Kohring and Matt Hann 

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Funniest Church Signs (part 2)

I had such fun with Top 10 Funniest Church Signs that I went searching for some more.. I hope you enjoy..

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Communion Wine

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Bring me that ass

Dinosaur

Stayihg in bed

Hokey Pokey

person my dog thinks I am

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Top 10 Funniest Church Signs

I love to laugh.. and sometimes church signs are hilarious.. Here are some of my favorites!

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AC units

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I had so much fun doing this one.. that I did another… check it out

Funniest Church Signs (part 2)

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12 Habits Of The Highly Successful

Those who have become very successful have deliberate habits that make them more productive and effective. To emulate these habits, we must train ourselves and be focused; we must take our bad habits and replace them with new ones.

Here are 12 powerful habits that can help you build success into your life. How many do you already have in place, and which ones do you need to pick up? Which of these habits did Jesus include in His very successful life.

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1. Be an early riser. Research shows that 44 percent of successful people wake up three hours before going to work, compared with just 3 percent of those who are not. Just the simple act of getting up early adds an hour a day to their lives. Imagine how much productive work you can get done early in the morning, with no interruptions or distractions. The morning is also the best time for prayer, meditation and reading the Bible.

  • Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where He prayed. (Mark 1:35 NIV)

2. Network. Research says that 79 percent of successful people spend at least five hours a month networking–going to conferences, meeting new clients, attending webinars, meeting for coffee. Spending time with like-minded people allows you to align yourself with others and learn from them. Whom you hang out with determines what you talk about and what you do about it; you can change your effectiveness by being with successful people who will teach you, lift you, and support you.

  • After this, Jesus and His disciples went out into the Judean countryside, where He spent some time with them… (John 3:22 NIV)

3. Keep your focus. The most successful people are those who found their purpose–and from there, they became focused on being the best at what they were called to do. Follow their determination; ignore the noise and keep your FOCUS: Follow One Course Until Success.

Jesus is a prime example of this.. He would not be deterred from what God had called Him to do. He knew His purpose and wouldn’t let even His closest companions deter Him.

  • Jesus ~ I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full. (John 10:10 NIV)
  • After Peter tried to deter Jesus from God’s plan ~ Jesus turned to Peter and said, “Get away from me, Satan! You are a dangerous trap to me. You are seeing things merely from a human point of view, not from God’s.”

4. Read to learn. According to research, 86 percent of successful people love to read, as opposed to 26 percent of those who are not successful. When you read, make sure you read to learn. Those who achieve wealth and success are constantly in a state of self-improvement; they read to learn and grow. As Dr. Seuss said so well, “The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go.”

It should also be noted that the Bible, the most successful book ever written, is one of the best books to learn of the wisdom and ways of God. Here is a link to some great reading plans for the Bible.

  • Jesus stood up to read, and the scroll of the prophet Isaiah was handed to him. (Luke 4:16-17 NIV)

5. Make a list. To achieve an overarching goal, you need to list what you want to accomplish. The majority of successful people create daily to-do lists–81 percent of them. What’s more, 67 percent of highly successful folks actually complete 70 percent or more of their to-do items every day. They have goals they focus on, and they work hard to achieve them.

Jesus didn’t have a written to-do-list but He clearly had a plan that He daily followed.

  • Jesus ~ “For the Son of man is come to seek and to save that which was lost.” (Luke 19:10)
  • Jesus ~ “Even as the Son of man came not to be ministered unto, but to minister, and to give His life a ransom for many.” (Matthew 20:28)
  • Jesus ~ “It is finished” (John 19:30 NIV)

6. Get off the couch. It’s an hour or less of daily TV for 67 percent of highly successful people, while only 23 percent of the rest limit their TV intake. When it comes to reality shows, only 6 percent of the successful watch them, compared with 78 percent of the others. Highly successful people choose more productive and meaningful activities.

Jesus filled His life with doing good, spending time with God, mentoring His disciples and following the plan set out for Him.

  • Jesus went around doing good and healing all who were oppressed by the devil,  for God was with Him. (Acts 10:38 NLT)

7. Treat time as a precious resource. Successful people avoid wasting time on unimportant matters or distractions. They don’t sit for hours at their computer or TV because they know that time is a nonrenewable resource. Time wasted is not time you can get back.

Jesus only had three and a half years to accomplish His goal. It is amazing that He was able to change the world in that short period of time. Today over two billion people follow Him.

  • Jesus ~ If any of you wants to be my follower, you must turn from your selfish ways, take up your cross, and follow me. If you try to hang on to your life, you will lose it. But if you give up your life for my sake, you will save it. And what do you benefit if you gain the whole world but lose your own soul? (Matthew 16:24-26 NIV)

8. Take intentional risks. Successful people understand that risks lead to rewards. As a result, they’re more willing to take risks–not reckless risks but calculated ones. The very successful know what they stand to lose if a risk fails and they don’t get the reward they are seeking.

Jesus took a risk. He knew that not everyone would receive Him or understand what His purpose was. But He persevered and followed God’s plan anyway. And in doing so, He forever changed the world.

  • Jesus ~ “For I came down from heaven, not to do My own will, but the will of Him who sent Me.” (John 6:38 NIV)

9. Work smarter, not harder. A smart approach to work, including taking breaks, makes people more productive. Hard work is critical, but that doesn’t mean they can never enjoy personal time for relaxation and self-improvement. They have a good balance of work, personal tasks, and pleasure so they can be more creative and more productive–which, in turn, makes them more effective. Work hard, and then take a break. When you come back, you’ll be refreshed and more productive.

In spite of all the great good that Jesus did and who He was (the Son of God). He regularly spent time alone, praying and listening to the voice of His Father.

  • At daybreak, Jesus went out to a solitary place. The people were looking for Him. (Luke 4:42 NIV)
  • Jesus ~ “The Son can do nothing by Himself. He does only what He sees the Father doing. Whatever the Father does, the Son also does. For the Father loves the Son and shows Him everything He is doing. In fact, the Father will show Him how to do even greater works than healing this man.  (John 5:19-20 NLT)

10. Invest in your health. Highly successful people understand the importance of eating right and working out to stay healthy. Studies show that 76 percent of successful folks do aerobic exercise at least four days a week, compared with 23 percent of people who are not wealthy; 57 percent of successful people count calories every day, as opposed to 5 percent of the rest. Even more interesting, 70 percent of successful people eat fewer than 300 calories of junk food a day. Successful people know the correlation between healthful eating and working out and their ability to accomplish the things they want to do.

  • As Jesus walked beside the Sea of Galilee…  (Jesus walked everywhere He went)

11. Foster your emotional intelligence. Successful people know that having good relationships is crucial to success. They are tuned in to their own emotions, which also means they’re perceptive at reading the emotions of others. Warren Buffett has stated that emotional intelligence, more than IQ or expertise, accounts for 85 to 90 percent of success. IQ is a threshold competence–you need it, but it does not make you a star. But emotional intelligence can.

  • Jesus knew what they were thinking and asked, “Why are you thinking these things in your hearts? (Luke 5:22 NIV)

12. Pay it forward. To be truly successful, you need to understand the importance of paying it forward. As Albert Einstein said, “Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile.” What you have, you share. Help someone, because along the way someone helped you. And the truth is, life is always about giving what you get.

  • Jesus (The Golden Rule) ~ So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you. (Matthew 7:12 NIV)

True success is not measured by how much you have but by how many hearts you have touched.

Adapted from Lolly Daskal: 12 Habits Of The Super Successful

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Eight Unexpected Blessings of Christianity

By Chuck Lawless

My seventh-grade classmate who shared the story of Christ with me was a matter-of-fact kind of guy. Here’s generally the way he told me the gospel: “You’re going to hell, and you need to get saved.” In fact, he was even more pointed than that on the mornings when he’d meet me at the classroom door with, “It’s a good thing you lived through the night . . . because you’d be in hell right now if you hadn’t.”

To be honest, my primary motivation for following Christ as a 13-year old was to escape the hell I’d heard so much about from my friend. I can look back now over the last 40+ years, though, and I see so many benefits I never even considered back then:

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  1. Sleeping without worry. When you first hear the gospel the way I did, you don’t sleep well. I will never forget the first night’s sleep I had after Jesus saved me. I slept like a baby because I no longer worried about what would happen to me when I died.
  2. Not fearing death. This many years after God saved me (and obviously closer to death now than I was then), I still don’t worry about it. I don’t want to die today, and I’d prefer it not hurt when it comes – but I do not fear it.
  3. Gaining family outside my family. By that I mean that God has given me folks who’ve become as much my family as my family of origin. The love God gives us for brothers and sisters in Christ is an amazing, uniting, satisfying love that can carry us through even when we haven’t felt loved otherwise.
  4. Being redirected to better plans. When I became a Christian, I was sure I was going to be a teacher. I made those plans in kindergarten (really!), and nothing was going to change them – except, that is, for a call of God that would eventually allow me to proclaim His Word and God’s plan is always right.
  5. Meeting my wife. Few people know at age 13 the person they are going to marry. I didn’t. In fact, I didn’t know her at age 13, 15, 20, or 25. She’s in my life now because two church secretaries thought I needed help in meeting the right person and making the best marriage decision as I approached my 30s. They were right.
  6. Not worrying if life doesn’t make sense. I’m enough of a control freak that I’d prefer to be in charge, but I’ve learned that God really is sovereign over life. If things don’t go my way, that doesn’t mean it’s time to get stressed. God will work it all out.
  7. Learning that “stuff” doesn’t matter. Sure, I’m glad we have a home, a car, etc. – but I know from conducting dozens of funerals over the years that you really don’t take it with you. It’s seriously liberating when you stop worrying about stuff.
  8. Being forgiven over and over again. At my conversion, I was grateful that God forgave my sins. What I didn’t know then was that the rest of my life would be about God’s forgiving me each day, each hour, each moment. His forgiving love really is sweet.

The peace God gave me about eternity when I became a Christ follower is still real to me today. What I didn’t realize then – but I deeply appreciate now – is that faith is as much present tense as it is future tense.

What other blessings have you discovered during your Christian walk?

Be sure to check out Dr. Lawless’ daily blog posts atwww.chucklawless.com. Chuck Lawless currently serves as Professor of Evangelism and Missions and Dean of Graduate Studies at Southeastern Seminary. You can connect with Dr. Lawless on both Twitter and Facebook.

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5 Traits Of A Great Worship Leader

By WorshipSetIdeas.com ~ A great worship leader doesn’t just lead their congregation. They also lead their accompanying worship team—the band and the vocalists. And let’s face it, worship leadership is hard. Musicians can be moody and temperamental—including yourself!

We’ve put together these five essentials of worship leadership to help you develop as a worship leader. We’ll also list a few great worship leadership books so you can continue your reading into the topic.

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So without further ado, here are the five essentials of worship leadership.

1. Loving Your Worship Team

When you are creating worship sets week in and week out, it’s easy to start seeing each week as a product. Consequently, you can start seeing your worship team as mere cogs in the wheel of worship. When you start seeing your team members as tools instead of people, you’ll lose all love for them.

1 Corinthians 13:1 seems to speak almost precisely to worship leaders on this: “If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.” Unless you’re a drummer, that resounding gong or clanging cymbal is a nightmare. But that’s what our worship leadership is without love. It’s an ugly thing.

Everything you do as a worship leader should stem from love of your team and love of the people you lead into worship.

2. Sacrifice

If you’re showing up to practice unprepared, how can you expect your worship team to show up prepared. And unfortunately, worship leadership requires more than just minimal preparation. It requires at least twice as much preparation as any other job on the team.

This means you need to sacrifice for your team. Think through every person’s contribution to the worship set weekly. Consider ways you can make their job easier. I guarantee this will take your worship leadership to the next level.

3. Worship Leadership = Vision Leadership

A vision is the thing that keeps your worship team all going in the same direction. If one of your guitarists wants to be a rock star, while a vocalist wants to be a broadway singer, while you want to be a humble monk…worship will be a mess.

Give your team a vision for what worship will be like at your church. And that’s more than just “singing to God”. What should your worship team look like? What should their motivations be? What should the congregation response look like?

Cast the vision for your worship team and continue to re-iterate as often as possible. Let your team know what you expect from them and hold them to the standards you set.

For more, read Shaping the Vision of Your Worship Service by Andy Chrisman from Church on the Move.

4. Consistency

You’ve set expectations for your worship team. You need to enforce them and enforce them consistently. If the rule for showing up late without a phone call means a worship team member won’t be on stage next Sunday, enforce the rule. Even if it hurts.

Think of your worship team in the long-term. Discipline and correction hurts in the short-term, but it is a beautiful thing in the long run. Worship leadership is about making the hard decisions in order to build a healthy team environment.

5. Continual Communion with God

Finally, and most importantly, you need to monitor your relationship with God. One of the easiest things to happen to a worship leader is that he or she substitutes their work for God for their relationship with God. We can’t afford to be God’s employees without first and foremost being His children. Our relationship must come first.

Worship leadership is nothing without worship and fellowship with the One we worship. Set aside time each day to commune with God. Grab a devotional. Read the Word. Pray. And if you feel your relationships slipping…let me encourage you to take a break from worship leadership. Put down the guitar and worship God from the seats.

Keep your fire burning brightly inside. It translates to your team and to your congregation. And ultimately, the only thing that matters is your relationship with God. When the music fades, and all is swept away…it’s all that’s left.

Those are our five essentials of worship leadership. What would you add to the list? We’d love to see your comments.

Also check out these books for more reading:

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How Do You Encourage Your Band To Worship During The Music?

By Branon Dempsey ~

“How do you encourage your band to worship during the music?” This was a highlighted question from a worship leader. My response: “Pray as they play.”

There’s no doubt that our minds can become distracted when playing/singing in a band. Our thoughts can drift due to the technical to the terrible. So how do we focus on the spiritual?

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During rehearsals and run-throughs, I remind my team: I’d rather them miss a note in worship, than to miss worship when playing. You are praying, not merely playing.

Without Jesus, our music is only noise. God wants our hearts, not just our music. I find that when we align a great rhythm, chord or melody at the right timing of the lyric, something special happens.

“Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called to one hope when you were called.”‪#‎Eph 4‬.3-4

This is no different from composers of the classical era. They gave certain notes or lyrics to convey imagery and emotion – it was called text painting.

The whole idea is to pray through the music. It is as simple as agreeing with the lyrics in the music making, albeit that the lyrics are biblical and edify the church. Your soul is meditating as you groove.

This also helps the band on a practical point: they are following the lyrics and melody. Instead of thinking chords and counting, their minds become aware of the words. This gives musical direction of the song and to the player. We then match what the text of the music is saying, we compliment the message.

When you can spare about 10 minutes, try this at rehearsal: Take an easy song that has good biblical content and that you can play in your sleep. Play the song over and over and begin to pray with the lyrics. You will soon realize that the song takes on a much grander form. The Holy Spirit begins to move as you worship in unison. Make note of how much richer the song becomes as well as your praise. Think through the notes, beyond the music and join in the prayers of the song.

“May these words of my mouth and this meditation of my heart be pleasing in Your sight, Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer.” ‪#‎Psalm 19‬.14

As one team, come together as one Body. As one Body, pray together through music. Pray as you play.

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7 Secrets to Never Forget a Name Again

By Lolly Daskal ~ 

One of the best ways to make a favorable first impression–and to get ahead socially or in business — is to remember people’s names.

If you have a hard time remembering people’s names, you’re not alone. We have all experienced it–you meet someone and scramble to remember their name. It’s frustrating.

A new study shows part of the reason why: The name of someone you’ve just met doesn’t convey much meaning. This is known as the Baker Effect. If someone new tells you they’re a baker, they’re giving you context about their life and what they do. But if they say their last name is Baker, you don’t have any mental links to help it stick.

The trick then, is to make names meaningful and increase your ability to remember them. Here are 7 techniques that can help:

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Say it, say it, say it. Using a person’s name creates a connection that acknowledges them as being valued and remembered. It makes them feel good and helps you remember. Get in the habit of using people’s names often.

Stay in the present. When you’re introduced to someone, pay close attention and do everything you can to focus on that person. If you zone out or get distracted, names won’t register. Be present and concentrate, especially when the name is said. Being present also helps you make a memorable connection.

Repeat and replay. The best way to remember a name is to repeat it after you are introduced to someone. Repeat it in your head and say it out loud, even before you say your own: Stacey, hi–I’m Jack. It’s nice to meet you.” Make it clear and show that you’re genuinely pleased to meet them. Continue to use their name in conversation (without overdoing it, of course). Use it again when you’re leaving, and then write it down later with a short description.

Play the association game. When you hear the name, try to associate it with something you’ve learned about the person: Becky rides a bike, Fred likes to fish, Michael works in marketing. It’s a simple technique that really works.

Study the face. Be discreet, but take the time to study people’s facial features and try to find something easy to remember about them. If possible, combine this with association. Connect the name with their most prominent feature–for example, “big forehead Ben.”

Cross-reference. Cross-reference the name you’re learning with something that happened to you. If you’re meeting someone named Shelly, you might remember that your college roommate was Shelly, and she had smelly feet. It really helps you remember, and it might bring a smile to your face.

Trust yourself. It’s easy to fall back on saying, “Oh, I just can never remember names.” But you can, of course. Work on creating a new habit by trying these techniques, and then learn to trust yourself and raise your expectations. You can do this.

Remembering names is one of the most powerful things you can do to make people feel important and to build meaningful relationships. Few things are a better use of your time and energy than developing this valuable skill.

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Does God Really Care About What Happens In Your Life?

Have you ever read Psalm 139? The first time the lyrics from that incredible Psalm hit me was when I was helping my son, Josh, memorize them in high school. As we slowly repeated those powerful lyrics over and over, I was awestruck about how God cares for the tiniest details in my life.. Read them for yourself.. they are life changing!    ps 139

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